How to Be Radically Honest // Caroline Myss
Summary
This video features a conversation with Carolyn Mace, a pioneer in energy medicine and medical intuition. She discusses her accidental journey into the field, emphasizing the importance of self-respect, trust, and faith over external validation and digital connection. Mace challenges the human obsession with 'why me?' and the addiction to drama, asserting that spiritual erosion occurs through self-deception and that true healing and intuitive ability stem from radical honesty, living by one's values, and embracing the impersonal, yet intimate, nature of the universe. The conversation also touches on the cosmic laws governing existence, the destructive nature of entitlement and dishonesty, and the power of prayer and authentic living for individual and collective well-being.
Key Insights
Mace challenges the need for explanations and our obsession with 'why me'.
Carolyn Mace believes the universe does not owe individuals explanations they feel entitled to. She posits that insisting on understanding 'why me' can be a significant block to healing. She critiques our societal addiction to drama and noise, and the spiritual erosion caused by self-deception disguised as coping mechanisms.
Isolation and lack of external noise were crucial for Mace's development.
Mace spent time in a hermitage-like solitude, reading and in quiet contemplation, which she likens to incubation. This period, free from ego-driven ambition and external digital noise, was essential for her development, a privilege she believes is rare today.
Intuition is the soul's most natural sensory system, emerging from self-respect and trust.
Carolyn Mace defines intuition as the soul's most natural sensory system. She emphasizes that intuitive skills emerge not from methods like meditation, but from self-respect, self-esteem, and faith. A faith crisis, she explains, includes a lack of faith in oneself and the inability to keep promises made to oneself.
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Introduction to Carolyn Mace and Her Work
Carolyn Mace, a co-creator of medical intuition and energy medicine, started her career unexpectedly.
Carolyn Mace is introduced as a pioneering figure in energy medicine and medical intuition, a field she helped establish. Her journey into this work began accidentally while she was broke, isolated, and without modern technological resources like the internet or TV.
Mace challenges the need for explanations and our obsession with 'why me'.
Carolyn Mace believes the universe does not owe individuals explanations they feel entitled to. She posits that insisting on understanding 'why me' can be a significant block to healing. She critiques our societal addiction to drama and noise, and the spiritual erosion caused by self-deception disguised as coping mechanisms.
Mace's early work in medical intuition lacked modern digital connectivity.
In the 1980s, before the age of Google and widespread internet, Carolyn Mace developed her skills in isolation in a small town. This lack of external digital connection is highlighted as a unique advantage for developing her abilities without ego-driven external validation or comparison.
The originator of 'medical intuitive' was Norm Sheiley.
Norm Sheiley coined the term 'medical intuitive' for Carolyn Mace's psychic ability, a phrase she initially disliked but later embraced. This naming of the field allowed it to gain recognition.
Norm Sheiley, a brilliant scientist, influenced Mace's entry into energy medicine.
Carolyn Mace credits her long working partnership and friendship with scientist Norm Sheiley for her interest in conscious abilities. Although she initially had no interest in healing or related fields, her deep regard for him led her into this path.
Isolation and lack of external noise were crucial for Mace's development.
Mace spent time in a hermitage-like solitude, reading and in quiet contemplation, which she likens to incubation. This period, free from ego-driven ambition and external digital noise, was essential for her development, a privilege she believes is rare today.
Mace's initial lack of knowledge about healing concepts was an asset.
Because she had no prior knowledge of chakras or medical intuition concepts, Mace's absence of knowledge served as her greatest asset. She could ask fundamental questions, learning from Norm Sheiley, and her fascination grew organically without preconceived notions.
Mace's work is driven by clarity from lack of personal ambition or external noise.
Living in a self-chosen, solitary environment without personal ambition or external goals like internet fame, Mace found clarity. This detachment from external validation and ambition allowed her internal sense of what was real to develop beyond the physical world.
The Nature of Intuition and Self-Trust
Intuition is the soul's most natural sensory system, emerging from self-respect and trust.
Carolyn Mace defines intuition as the soul's most natural sensory system. She emphasizes that intuitive skills emerge not from methods like meditation, but from self-respect, self-esteem, and faith. A faith crisis, she explains, includes a lack of faith in oneself and the inability to keep promises made to oneself.
Dishonesty and lies destroy the intuitive system by creating fear of self-reflection.
Telling lies or engaging in dishonesty breaks down the intuitive system because it instills fear of one's conscience and reflection. This fear sustains a position of avoiding one's true feelings and conflicts, as the universe holds individuals accountable for actions that harm others.
Suffering begins when one becomes someone they do not respect, lacking faith in themselves.
Suffering manifests in the human body when individuals become people they do not respect, lacking self-faith and fearing exposure. Mace explains that in the current psychic era, people are transparent to each other, and intuitive energetic senses extend far beyond the five physical senses.
Parents often invalidate children's intuitive knowing by denying their perceptions.
When children intuitively sense a parent's emotion (e.g., sadness or anger) and express it, parents often deny it ('No, I'm not angry'). This invalidates the child's intuitive knowing precisely at that moment, a missed opportunity to teach them about their perceptive abilities.
Faith is the mechanism connecting us to allies in the invisible world.
Faith is described as the life force mechanism that allows connection with allies in the invisible world. It enables stepping away from the reasoning mind, which is focused on understanding the past, and embracing the possibility that 'anything can happen' with divine assistance.
Faith means knowing you are being helped; trust is accepting help arriving in its own time.
A distinction is made between faith and trust. Faith is the absolute knowing of being helped, while trust is the acceptance that help will arrive when and how it is meant to. Individuals lacking faith in themselves cannot have faith in God or successful relationships.
Betraying oneself leads to blaming others to release the toxic internal conflict.
When individuals betray themselves, they must punish or blame someone else to expel the internal rumblings of 'why'd you do that?'. This externalizes the conflict, keeping them angry at the blamed person and forming a mechanism to cope with self-betrayal.
Intuition is fueled by faith, trust, and self-esteem, starting with keeping promises to oneself.
Intuition functions optimally when fueled by faith, trust, and self-esteem. Developing this involves working with oneself, starting by keeping essential promises, such as not lying, regardless of the immediate cost of truth. It's about reporting truth, not expressing fleeting personal emotions.
Follow your intuition's instructions, which continuously manage your survival and well-being.
The intuitive system works 24/7, managing survival, health, and well-being. It's crucial to start following even the smallest instructions from this system, like deciding to start walking or not lying to oneself, to uphold the integrity of this guidance.
Life, Death, and Universal Laws
Present problems often stem from when individuals started lying to themselves.
Therapists often see presenting problems like relationship issues, but Mace suggests the root cause is often when the individual first started lying to themselves or stopped working honestly with themselves.
The origin of issues (this life vs. past lives) is insignificant; focus on the present moment.
Mace dismisses the significance of past lives in understanding current problems. She argues that focusing on the 'why' or origin, whether in this life or past ones, is a distraction from the ego. The only power lies in how one handles the present moment.
The universe is impersonal yet deeply intimate, governed by laws like gravity.
The universe, while impersonal (gravity affects everyone the same), is also deeply intimate. This paradox is seen as the nature of God. Understanding this allows for a shift from personal entitlement to an impersonal, cosmic perspective on human experience.
A shift has occurred from faith in soul's immortality to prioritizing the body's longevity.
Modern society has shifted from a focus on the soul's enduring accountability to prioritizing the body's physical permanence. This is identified as a core spiritual crisis, contributing to dark phenomena like demonic reports and widespread dishonesty.
The pursuit of power leads to a disregard for laws applying to ordinary individuals.
The trajectory of human desire moves from acquiring things for feeling, to money, then to power. Once power is attained, individuals test it by believing laws no longer apply to them, leading to a lawless world and contempt for being ordinary.
Mystical laws, like cause and effect, are mirrored in the physical world ('as above, so below').
The laws of science, such as physics and cause-and-effect, are mystical laws that have physical counterparts. The concept of 'gravitas' in Latin, meaning to 'give weight' to an idea or thought, illustrates how concepts become real through focused energy and intention.
Attaching to illusions and taking the universe personally fuels entitlement and delays healing.
Giving energy and weight to illusions or 'spectacles' detaches individuals from reality. Taking the universe personally leads to a sense of entitlement, believing one is owed specific outcomes. This energetic 'weight' delays healing and synchronicity because one is bound to maintaining their perceived life environment.
Forgiveness and letting go of grievances lighten one's energetic field, allowing universal laws to work faster.
Letting go of resentment, such as through forgiveness, lightens one's energetic field, leading to feelings of lightness and illumination. When not weighed down by energetic attachments, the laws of the universe (action, reaction, cause, effect) function more immediately.
Humility and accepting the universe doesn't owe explanations are key after loss.
Following the loss of five close individuals, Mace emphasizes that the universe does not owe explanations. She advises embracing the 'season of passing' without personalizing it, recognizing that everyone is subject to the impersonal laws of existence and impermanence.
Entitlement is a disease stemming from the belief that suffering warrants special treatment.
Entitlement, the belief that one is owed something due to suffering, is identified as a societal disease. Mace suggests confronting this by asking individuals what they feel entitled to and who they hold accountable for not receiving it.
Lack of faith and prayer contributes to epidemics and a disordered world.
Epidemics of disorders arise from a lack of faith and the inability to pray effectively. When people lose faith and a value system reflecting it, the world lacks order and justice, leading to a spiritual crisis and societal decay.
Integrate your life into the larger purpose of life, not the reverse.
Instead of asking 'What is the purpose of my life?', individuals should ask 'What is the purpose of life?' and how their life fits into that larger framework. This requires a bigger, impersonal understanding of human experience as a gift and an adventure in co-creation.
Prayer enlists aid from companions not bound by earthly rules; heaven doesn't compensate for self-inflicted errors.
Prayer connects individuals with allies in the invisible world ('heaven') who operate outside earthly constraints. However, heaven assists awakenings, not compensates for stupidity or arrogance. Individuals are responsible for their choices, and divine help doesn't absolve personal responsibility.
Every thought is an act of creation and a prayer; heaven assists what you cannot do.
Prayer is not necessarily religious; it's about recognizing every thought as an act of creation. Heaven (the divine) performs what individuals cannot, but its role is to awaken, not make life easy or compensate for poor choices. Start small, even with pretend belief, to open the door.
Radical honesty and living by one's values are essential for spiritual well-being.
Living by core values like truth, life, and prayer is paramount. While daily mistakes happen, accountability—not just responsibility—is key. This involves owning up to errors, seeking forgiveness, and promptly addressing conflicts before they fester and turn dark.
Truth sets you free; you'll never get sick from honesty.
Living with radical honesty is a practice of owning one's mistakes and cleaning them up immediately. Mace asserts that one never becomes physically ill from truthfulness, though the hearing of it may be challenging. It's the foundation for freedom and spiritual health.
Embracing a higher, impersonal perspective helps navigate life's challenges, trusting in divine timing.
When faced with overwhelming situations or wanting to 'vacuum people off the planet', adopting a higher perspective is crucial. Projecting oneself into the heavens and breathing with the divine allows for grace and acceptance that 'heaven plays the long game,' implying ultimate justice and order.
The mystical law of 'what's in one is in the whole' applies to interconnectedness.
The principle 'what's in one is in the whole' signifies interconnectedness. Just as one cell tissue is in the whole body, what is within one person is within another. This understanding is fundamental to becoming a global community, moving beyond fear of our own species.
Societal dysfunction stems from a spiritual cancer of dishonesty and a focus on material gain.
The current societal issues, including a 'spiritual cancer', stem from a collective turning away from truth and prioritizing money and power. This leads to ungenerous behavior, oppression, and a disregard for accountability, mirroring the slave-master archetype.
To combat societal issues, reject falsehood and embody truth and light.
Individuals can counter destructive forces by refusing to look the other way and by not being someone who can be bought. Becoming a beacon of light, shining that light in every moment, and refusing to fuel fear or hatred is the most powerful way to resist.
Co-creation involves asking for what is needed for one's life mission, not for personal pleasure.
When asking for divine assistance, it should be aligned with a life mission or essential survival needs, not for personal desires like vacations. Co-creation requires demonstrating you are doing your best and acting for the greater good, not just individual gratification.
The universe is a partner; prayer is talking like you would to a partner.
The universe is treated as a real, palpable partner. Prayer is not confined to set rituals but is like talking to a partner, expressing one's struggles, acknowledging mistakes, and asking for help to do better. This authentic communication fosters a living partnership.
Mace's personal experience of divine provision during financial hardship.
Carolyn Mace recounts an instance where, facing financial ruin with only $76 and rent due, she appealed to God for help. Within 24 hours, her mother inexplicably received thousands from a long-forgotten penny stock investment, providing the necessary funds.
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